Lowering the age of consent

This week in the news it was reported that the UK Faculty of Public Health president, Prof John Ashton, has said that the age of consent should be lowered to 15, from its current age of 16.

Apparently, around a third of all boys and girls aged 14 or 15 were already having sex and the move to lower the age of consent would make it easier for teenagers of 15 to get sexual health advice from the NHS.

In my opinion it will also lead to even more pressure for teenagers to have sex before they are mature enough.

Thankfully, the Prime Minister has rejected this absurd idea.

Having sex is a BIG issue and it is not one that should be entered in to lightly.

I truly believe that lowering the age of consent will throw up so many more problems. We already have one of the highest teenage pregnancy rates in Europe. Kids are having kids!

It already seems that two children (because that is what they are under 18) can have sex, create a new life and no legal repercussions. It would also seem that, even in some cases, an ‘adult’ (I am talking 18-20yrs) can have sex with someone under the age of consent and there also not be any repercussions.

I lost my virginity at 15 years 7 months old. My boyfriend at the time was of similar age (he was 4 months younger than me). It was the biggest regret of my life – and still is.

I felt pressured. Not just by him, but other kids in school who were all doing it.

So we did. And he dumped me a few months later. Then he spread rumours around the school about me.

I was not emotionally ready for it – and he clearly was not mature enough for it, if he thought it was fun to spread vicious untruths and egging his mates on to ask me inappropriate questions in a class full of people.

Nothing happened repercussion wise for us. But it nearly did after he told a senior teacher at school about us. She in turn phoned my mother – who had no idea at the time!

Having sex is a huge commitment and like I said, it is something I truly regret – but I cannot change it.

I can however, be open with my kids. I can instill in them that having sex is something that shouldn’t be jumped in to. That you should wait for the right person – and yes – I would encourage no sex before marriage (or at least until they are 100% certain that the person they want to have sex with is the person they want to spend the rest of their life with).

Lowering the age of consent will not stop teenage pregnancy. Lowering the age of consent will not make kids more sexually aware.

In my opinion it will encourage peer pressure. It will encourage older people (women and men) to prey on younger teens to have sex with them because they are “at the age of consent”.

In my opinion, and I said this before in my Breastfeeding incentives post – it’s EDUCATION that is key!

It’s been a while since I was in school, but I don’t remember any formal sex education and the little we did, the boys and girls were segregated. But I really think that a better sexual education needs to be had. I know some schools now have those interactive dolls that girls can bring home. I think they are great and would encourage more of these.

I also think that we need to stop sexualising everything and women (and men) need to STOP being seen as sex objects! Stop the half-naked pictures in magazines, on the TV before a certain time etc.

And make there be repercussions for those who do not abide by the law!

My older 2 children are 8 and nearly 7. The thought of them having sex in the future terrifies me. I want to instill good morals in them and to not succumb to peer pressure.

What do you think about the lowering of the age of consent? Would you be all for it?

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2 Comments

  1. November 21, 2013 / 8:11 pm

    I think it would be very bad to lower the age of consent, don’t agree with that at all.
    I don’t have TV in my house because I don’t want my children being sexualised.
    I’m not worried about my children having sex when they are adults because I’m bringing them up to be confident and have lots of self respect and sex is a lovely thing between consenting adults.

  2. Tracy Hughes
    April 19, 2014 / 5:35 am

    I think it would be a bad idea too, in my opinion (and I know it will grate with some) the only way to stop teen pregnancy is to stop benefits below a certain age.

    I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 40, and I still think it was the worst thing I have done!