“Mothers are some of the world’s most powerful people. They feed us, teach us and protect us. Most of all, they love us – unconditionally.” Oxfam UK
Beginning in March 2014, Oxfam set out to call upon the British public to join them in celebrating the importance of mums around the world with their Mother Appeal.
The appeal has seen the message spread far and wide, including a record-breaking attempt at creating the world’s largest Mother’s Day card in London in late March. The core of Oxfam’s work has always been about empowering those in need to lift themselves out of poverty and strife.
In countries like Sri Lanka, mothers have struggled for years to raise their children amidst years of conflict. Many have lost loved ones and had their families or communities ripped apart: but through raising awareness and ultimately raising funds, Oxfam and the people of Britain can help people begin to rebuild their lives.
Oxfam now want to take the conversation online; to encourage as many of the great mums blogging about parenting to join them in celebrating the importance of motherhood. They have asked me to share a blog post about the single most important piece of advice I have received about motherhood, and how this has helped shape my outlook on parenting my own children.
I had to truly think hard about this as I have never really been given any advice from anyone. I often judge myself quite harshly as a mother, as I imagine most do, and lack confidence in my own abilities that I am parenting correctly and giving my children the best tools to grow them in to well-rounded adults.
I grew up in quite a strict household, where fear wasn’t uncommon and often we were not allowed to behave in a way or do things that most children would. This has meant that I often struggle to just ‘let go’ and find that the things that most children do, can be daunting and I can get quite uptight and upset over the silliest of things.
Last year I was having one of those moments. The children had drawn on the walls and I was less than impressed. Then after chatting to Tania at Larger Family Life, it made me realise that although these things are naughty, they are trivial. Walls can be painted and cleaned. I realised I need to let up, step back and enjoy the children whilst they are still young because it won’t be long before they are all flying the nest.
I still struggle with it. We have good days and bad days like all parents, but I am trying to not let the trivial things get to me and just try my best to raise well-rounded, level-headed, grounded children. If I do that, then I will be happy!