After my article in the Daily Mail a few weeks back, I was contacted by one of the editors at Best Magazine asking if I would like to do a similar article for them.
Of course, I said yes!
The mag is out this week, and my article can be found inside. Do grab a copy if you can (it’s only 92p!). I’d love to know what you think!
If you are unable to get a copy, below is what I wrote for the magazine.
Sex is the glue that keeps us together, says Rachel Gully, 31, a PR Officer from Staines, Surrey.
‘The children are settled and my husband, Paul, and I make our way to bed for an early night. We take off our clothes, slip between the sheets and make love, before falling asleep in each other’s arms.
You may think that because we have four children – Jake, 10, Kyla, nine, Abigail, five, and Zachary, three – that this is a rare treat, but despite being working parents it’s a nightly occurrence.
For us, intimacy’s a vital part of our marriage and the glue that has kept us together for more than 13 years. As far as I’m concerned, you should never be too busy or too tired that you neglect your love life. As with everything in life, it’s all about putting the effort in.
Paul, 39, and I met when I joined the company he as working for when I was 17. We connected right away, but I had a boyfriend so we were just friends. When that relationship broke down, a year later, Paul was the one I turned to.
We dated for a few months before we first made love, and the chemistry was instants. Over the years, sex has been something that brought us closer together.
Of course, it hasn’t all been smooth sailing. As with every relationship we’ve had our ups and downs – pregnancies, miscarriages, and bouts of depression have all led to our sex life dwindling at times. But it’s only when we’ve reconnected physically that we truly get back on track.
It isn’t always easy and there are days when we’ve argued, the kids are being a nightmare and I just can’t be bothered. But that is very rare. Most of the time, if you let yourself relax, you’ll soon be in the mood. Sex is an amazing thing – the more you get, the more you want it.
Plus, we make the effort. I always wear matching underwear. This isn’t only for Paul, but also for me, to make me feel sexy and confident. Knowing I’m his lover, as well as the mother of his children is the best feeling.’
Paul says, ‘If you value something, you should put the work in. I love Rachel and sex brings a feeling of togetherness and being “one” which reinforces that love. I hope we’re still doing it long into our old age. It’s what keeps any marriage alive.’
What do you think? What are your views about talking about sex publicly?